Wednesday, September 30, 2009

disrespectin' ya

Dear Brian,

I have gradually been working my way through some of your personal belongings. I have divvied your coveted Grateful Dead tie-dye amongst your brothers. I have saved some of your caps for the boys, yet passed on a few others to your family and friends. I have gone through your sweatshirts and business shirts and tee shirts trying to find good homes for those worthy of keeping. I have boxed up others in preparation for a trip to good will some day. Yet still many things remain. The boys find treasures every so often that they play with or sort through or simply oooohh and aaaaahhh over. Your shoes found a home this weekend with Uncle Paul - one of the few size 9ers in the family. Plus, he is equally as bow-legged as you, so I joke that they are already properly worn in for him.

I am trying really hard to find suitable homes for your tangible belongings while honoring your memory with their distribution. I enjoy thinking of someone to pass a certain item to. I enjoy the reaction of the recipient.

Also, I enjoy finding new purposes for the space. Your walk in closet has become home to the pack n play thus providing the new little baby girls in our family a private room. Your wardrobe has become part linen closet. Each time I replace one of your storage spaces with a new item, I think of it as practicality and sometimes I even think it would make you smile.

However, today, I disrespected you in this sense. After hospice disposed of your medicines and I disposed of expired vitamins, supplements and other over-the-counter products that served no purpose and held no nostalgic value, I found a new purpose for your toiletries drawer.

Forgive me.



  1. Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! I love it.

  2. Now THAT's comic relief.

  3. You make me smile. I believe you are a very strong women and you inspire me when I read your blog.

  4. Yep, I'd call that quite a change.

    You are so sweet, and funny. God Bless You.

  5. I laughed out loud!!! You have such a great sense of humor.

  6. This made me laugh too. Don't feel bad about doing that. (I did the same thing)

    I hope you are doing ok, I've been thinking about you a lot.

  7. Now we know why Brian loved you--that's quite the sense of humor you've got there!

    My husband and boys treasure their t-shirts and hats that used to belong to Thom. It's a wonderful thing to share these with other people.

  8. Cracked me up...

    Angie...You're awesome. I hope you and the boys are doing well...God Bless you!

  9. You go girl! You are spreading the memory of Brian through out the family so that he will never be forgotten. When you open that drawer you will remember him with the laughter he would be showing right now.
    Your sister in Christ, Karen W. in S.W. Ohio

  10. Angie,

    Thanks for putting a smile on my face this morning!

    Enjoy your day,


  11. This made me smile! And I'm sure it made Brian smile too!

  12. Angie, You are awesome! Thanks for putting a smile on my face this morning - I needed it! Blessing to you and your family.

  13. Angie, Laughter is great medicine! Thanks for the laugh. Love you, sweet friend! Shawn from TN

  14. Angie -
    Thanks for the smile today! I'm sure Brian is smiling too.

  15. I dont know if you meant to, but you made me giggle.

  16. Angie
    Thanks for posting and making me chuckle. I am glad to see you still have a sense of humor! You know Brian is laughing with you!

  17. Now that is funny...and I think Brian is laughing at that, too! Everytime that "time" comes you can imagine him up there cringing whenever you have to open that drawer...Ha!

    Love you,

  18. Angie, Believing that you are smiling just because you gave so many of us a smile on our hearts and faces. Thank you so much for sharing all that you are and do. :):):)
    Love you Marjo